The Memory Curse

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Some people wish they had better memory skills.  Personally, I can tell you it is the most degrading curse possible.  While at first, remembering all the good times seems like it would be great.  We all remember the worst days of our lives, so that doesn’t really change.  So what’s the problem, you ask?

Imagine there was someone you dated that you really liked, but for whatever reason it didn’t work out.  You have some cherished memories that, thanks to an amazing memory, you can close your eyes and revisit like it was yesterday.  Then, 15, 20, 25 years later you bump into them and say “Remember when we…” they have no memory of it at all.  It’s not that it wasn’t a good experience for them, they just don’t retain the details.  They remember you, and that you spent time together, and that’s about it.

The real result, unavoidably, is a damaging sense of irrelevance, unimportance, and insignificance.  To have such a fond memory of a special moment and then learn that it didn’t “make the cut” in their heart and mind is one of worst feelings possible that has no real cause, only a difference in perception that creates the illusion of someone not caring.

So think twice before you wish for a better memory, it is an incredibly lonely way to live.

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